How many times have you asked for opportunities to come your way, then when they do without fail you start to look for ways to sabotage the opportunity?
This is not an unfamiliar topic to me and I’m sure many of you have experienced this yourself, or perhaps you’re not even aware you’re doing it yet?
So many see an opportunity, step up and take it then start to look for reasons why those opportunities don’t suit, start finding reasons why the opportunity is not working.
This is our fear holding us back from getting what we want or sabotaging our results. We can come up with so many clever ways, different excuses to hold us back.
It’s self-sabotage.
When we can actually take a step back and look at this objectively, quite often, we do this because of our fear.
Our fear sabotaging us so that we can confirm the thoughts that tell us that we aren’t good enough that we can’t achieve what we say we’re going to achieve, that can’t do it.
So when we see that great opportunity coming towards us, or we lock it in, what we can often do by default is we start coming up with excuses of why it’s not working, we can come up with excuses of why we’re not good enough or why we need to change our path so that we don’t have to step through the fear with the possibility of failing, with the possibility of falling flat on our face, with the possibility of looking silly or making mistakes.
This is what holds us back from accomplishing what we want to accomplish, from taking those opportunities or making those opportunities a success.
We can often look for justification of why things don’t work instead of stepping into the opportunity and leaning into the fear and, knowing that no matter what you’ll be okay, that no matter what you will grow with each step with each challenge.
I’ve certainly faced this dilemma a number of times in my life and I’m sure that this isn’t unfamiliar to you too.
We often don’t recognize that we’re doing it at the time until we come out of it, we realize that maybe we could have done that thing, maybe we should have held on that little bit longer and this my friends is what creates regret. This self-sabotaging habit creates the feeling of being a failure, by not actually pushing through the fear, by not actually giving it all that we should give, by believing our excuses and believing our justification of why we couldn’t do it or shouldn’t do it. These excuses that fear produces of why we shouldn’t stay there, whether it be a business, career or relationship, why we couldn’t do it or why we can’t do it halt our progress.
So, whenever an opportunity knocks, or whenever you’re looking at career progression, or stepping into that business or into that new relationship or really building upon a current relationship and I encourage you to step through your fear and really challenge yourself to step up.
In my experience, when we step through our fear, we up-level, we can’t up-level if we keep shying away from it if we keep pulling back when we step through the fear, are willing to fail, to stare our fear in the face and to look silly that’s where our power is, that is where the growth happens.
It’s when we pull away, and we listen to our excuses, and our justification of why we shouldn’t, that regret pay’s us a visit. Quite often it can come in a cycle, where we pull away from fear or from looking silly, being judged, or any of those things, we pull back into what’s comfortable and then we have another try again, and then we pull back and then we have another try again.
This behavior results in constant relationship after relationship, business trial after business trial, switching careers, friends or places because it gets harder, it gets tough, and we have to face ourselves, we have to face that fear and instead of being willing to step up, and look at how we might be showing up and look at how we can adjust that and up-level, we shy away, and we go back to the new and shiny thing again
The new and shiny thing that makes us feel good for now, then we do it again and again and again.
So whenever you’re stepping into a new business, new career, or new relationship remember, when you’re being called to up level, to face a challenge, to push through the fear, this time, make an internal change to see new external results, this time, push through the fear and remember whatever happens during this process, you are capable of handling it.
This time listen to what you’re saying to yourself and tell yourself that this time you’re not going to believe the story, this time you are going to keep going in the face of adversity.
Stop giving yourself excuses as to why you can’t and start giving yourself reasons why you can.
Which voice are you going to listen to? The voice that sabotages you and tells you why you can’t or the voice of courage and persistence and your willingness to face adversity?
The next challenge, the next opportunity is going to lead you closer to your dream, do you want to accomplish your dreams or allow yourself to keep sabotaging your progress?
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Loretta and the Team at Hybrid Healing 🖤
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