I was having an interesting conversation with my daughter the other day which has prompted me to share this particular topic with you. We were talking about how we need to be honest with ourselves and others, she was having a particular situation at school that was bringing up a feeling of incongruence inside her. I said to her “the most important thing you need to remember is that you need to be honest with yourself about how you feel, and then be honest with others around that”.
Sometimes this can be a really difficult thing for us to do because quite often we can get attached to outcomes or attached to relationships or jobs and we have this fear surrounding these things which can stop us from being completely open and honest about how we feel.
We don’t voice our opinions for fear that we might lose a relationship, we might lose a friend or an opportunity, or a business or career.
The most important thing here is to hold our integrity, to be honest with ourselves and with others, it’s the hard thing but the right thing to do and you will feel better about yourself for doing so.
What can happen is if we’re not staying congruent to who we are, what our values are, and what’s important to us, we sell ourselves out.
If we don’t speak openly and honestly, we don’t share our thoughts with another we chip away at our self-worth and our belief in ourselves.
We’ve all done it, where we hold back on saying something because we fear losing a particular thing and then it actually turns out to be far worse than had we have actually shared it.
In my experience, what I find is if we actually put our cards on the table, and we do share from a place of congruency, from a place of authenticity, we can actually deepen our relationships and our opportunities.
By being transparent we can get more of what we want and less of what we don’t want.
When we keep quiet when we follow through on something we really don’t want to when we do something we don’t really want to when we sell ourselves out. This chips away at our self-confidence, it chips away at our authenticity, it chips away at our trust and connection to ourselves and being trusting towards ourselves.
This is why I believe that it’s so important, as painful as it can sometimes, to be open and honest about our feelings, be truthful, and congruent to who we are.
This practice helps us to get more of those meaningful relationships, careers, and business opportunities into our lives.
This helps us to really let go of the things that aren’t in alignment with our values and what we want for ourselves, and to learn to hold our standards and what’s important to us.
So, if there’s one thing you can take away from this message is really just to be congruent to yourself.
Be honest with yourself when something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t right.
When something looks too good to be true and you know, in your being that it feels off trust yourself.
Trust yourself, to back yourself.
Trust yourself to stand up and speak out, to voice your concerns to share your thoughts and feelings, rather than selling yourself out.
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